For those who do not notice or know, I moved back to Petaling Jaya area after staying in Ampang for 10 months. Nearer to college and workplace = save more money!!
But, looking for a house is the chore that I hate the most. I dont like walking around housing area under the sun, nor do I like browsing newspaper for the "House for Rent / Sale" advertisement.
Just recently (I mean after settling down in Sunway area), I found a website, CariBilik, Malaysia's largest and No.1 Room For Rent / Room To Letwebsite, with over 30,000 rooms for rent posted online all across Malaysia, Ampang, Kuala Lumpur, Bangsar, Cheras, Setapak, Damansara, Petaling Jaya, Subang Jaya, and Penang, (actually almost the whole Malaysia, I even tried to search for rooms in my hometown, Kuching)
This website, is very systematic and user friendly. Just type the area that you would like to stay and you are showered with various choice. You can even specify the type of house or room that you are looking for. If you are concern and sharing the same belief with your new housemates, you can restrict the search and find a house that is occupied by certain believer.
If you have stumbled upon my blog from Singapore, you can have a search in your country as well. Just head on to their homepage and select your country..
Right at this moment, Cari Billik is only available in Singapore and Malaysia.
- right now, I am not so sure. Like really, I do commitment, expecting the exact same thing from my partner.
W: "First, if D comes back to you, can you accept D's bad habit, I mean, D cheated, can you accept that?"
- I will accept the fact that D cheated on me before, the same way that I accept the fact that D had slept with other girls before me.
W: "Second, since D has cheated on you, J will obviously come running back to her, or text or call or go out with D. Can you deal with that?"
- I dont think I can. But I will try, besides, cheating to me, is when you have feelings for someone and act on it. So, if J come running back, and D ignore the whole thing. It will be nothing. Right?
W: "Third, are you willing to be the third person in the relationship? If D chose to be with J?"
- I will right now, but cant promise that I will accept it in the long run. After all, why fight for a battle with no chance of winning when the battle is over. It is okay to fight for love, but it is not okay when you are fighting alone.
J is with some random people that we shall call T (yes, they are together).
A is hanging out with friend that we shall call W in a place we shall refer as MV.
So, D is with J, emotionally attached perhaps, or maybe just material based r/s. D and J was walking and met A with W. A is fully aware that D is with J. So, A is cast a smile and continue talking to W.
So, J asked D, "Why is A with another butch who-is-actually-W? why A saw you but no reaction?"
So my question is, who is J to ask this kind of question when she is supposed to be with T, the designated partner, she hang with D, the one who is attached to A.
So, J, this is my two cents.
I mean do you get what I mean, it is as if you are trying to say that A is cheating when all this while, you are cheating on your T? You don't have any rights at all to even comment on that. If you are the holy saint and goody goody type that doesn't cheat. Run back to your T and get on with life.
Then, what do you expect A to do?? Attack you in public so that you can have a point of saying that A actually attacked you in public and D should leave A for embarrassing J in public? Don you think that what A did is very mature? Ah well, I guess, J is too childish in that matter.
I just dont get what J is trying to do, hey, bored of relationship, dont be in one. It takes commitment, trust, lots of sharing, love. Okay, the key point here is commitment. It takes effort to be in commitment, really, it does. If you are acting like this, you will suffer the whole time. What will all the curses that you are going to have.
J, get over it.
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So, this is what A talked to W about.
W: "Do you still want D?" A: "Yes, cause I do love her so much." W: "Okay, now I want you to think about this." A: "Okay, what is it?" W: "First, if D comes back to you, can you accept D's bad habit, I mean, D cheated, can you accept that?" A: "I think so..." W: "Second, since D has cheated on you, J will obviously come running back to her, or text or call or go out with D. Can you deal with that?" A: ".............." W: "Third, are you willing to be the third person in the relationship? If D chose to be with J?"
I guess A have a lot to think about in this few weeks to come...
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Disaat kamu mulai tidak mencintainya ingatlah saat pertama kamu jatuh cinta padanya
Disaat kamu mulai bosan dengannya ingatlah selalu saat terindah bersamanya
Disaat kamu ingin menduakannya bayangkan jika dia selalu setia
Saat kamu ingin membohonginya ingatlah disaat dia jujur padamu
Maka kamu akan merasakan arti dia untukmu Jangan sampai disaat dia sudah tidak disisimu, Kamu baru menyadari semua arti dirinya untukmu
Yang indah hanya sementara Yang abadi adalah kenangan Yang ikhlas hanya dari hati Yang tulus hanya dari sanubari
Tidak mudah mencari yang hilang Tidak mudah mengejar impian
Namun yg lebih susah mempertahankan yg ada Karena walaupun tergenggam bisa terlepas juga Ingatlah pada pepatah, "Jika kamu tidak memiliki apa yang kamu sukai, maka sukailah apa yang kamu miliki saat ini"
Belajar menerima apa adanya dan berpikir positif Hidup bagaikan mimpi, seindah apapun, begitu bangun semuanya sirna tak berbekas Rumah mewah bagai istana, harta benda yang tak terhitung, kedudukan, dan jabatan yg luar biasa, namun..
Ketika nafas terakhir tiba, sebatang jarum pun tak bisa dibawa pergi Sehelai benang pun tak bisa dimiliki Apalagi yang mau diperebutkan Apalagi yang mau disombongkan
Maka jalanilah hidup ini dengan keinsafan nurani Jangan terlalu perhitungan Jangan hanya mau menang sendiri Jangan suka sakiti sesama apalagi terhadap mereka yang berjasa bagi kita Belajarlah tiada hari tanpa kasih Selalu berlapang dada dan mengalah Hidup ceria, bebas leluasa
Tak ada yang tak bisa di ikhlaskan Tak ada sakit hati yang tak bisa dimaafkan Tak ada dendam yang tak bisa terhapus.
Years back, when we first met. We were so in love. After awhile, you realised that you are starting to fall out of love, but falling for someone else.
How do I know that all this while you are in love with me? Are those just sweet words that you utter to every single lady that you have ever met?
People around me say, I am the only stupid girl who can tolerate your attitude and behaviour. I guess I am idiotic enough to be played till the level where I am just being left to crash and burn after flying so highly in love with you.
You say, I am the only girl in your life that understands you the most. I guess all the understanding fade away too.
I've changed. Thats what you say. Let me see, I took care of you when you were sick. You called me at night saying that you have fever and cant eat anything but porridge, I left campus at night, with almost empty pockets. Rushed to your place to cater for your need. Well, those are just the memories that we cant dwell much, it will hurt more.
Maybe I am just another plot in your life. Another trophy to parade around. And now you have a new trophy, may that trophy serve you well.
Every single thing in our life, happens for a reason. Every single step that we take, are predetermined by power that is too complicated for us to comprehend. And the best part, what goes around, comes around.
People says; "love is powerful, it will change you." How true is this? To me, its really true. People change to be better and all. But once the green monster takes over, one can really change to be better or worse.
So, what if you changed, negative?
Someone told me that I had changed to be the worst lover ever. I admit, I never really realised all the changes that took place. Maybe I was in my comfort zone, thinking that the way I love them is the true way of showing my love to them. I am a person who cant really show my love for them. Maybe I did it the wrong way. Confront me and tell me what you want, I will be your mirror and reflect everything that you want, just because I love you.
What if you've changed and they still dont cherish you?
Take the chance I guess. If I am changed to a better person, if that someone cant really cherish me, thinking that I cant give them everything that they want, maybe it was just meant to be that way. A friend of mine says, there are reasons that people from the past cant make it into your future. So, I guess its true. Everything happens for a reason, whatever reason that may be. If this happens to me to give me a wake up call. I guess I am awake, though half awake, still blinded by the love that I have for this person. Honestly, I dont have the strength to walk away, the strength to forget everything the strength to stay away.
But they have treated you so badly, isnt that a true wake up call?
It is a wake up call, but there is a malay saying, "bertepuk sebelah tangan tidak akan berbunyi." There are nothing that happened onesided. When we are pointing one finger toward others, remember that there are 3 fingers pointing back at you. Whatever that seems like fault of others, may caused by ourselves. I guess when shits happened, we humans would rather find something to point its at fault. Human nature I suppose.
What are you going to do if it doesnt work out?
I dont know. I really dont. Like I said, I dont have the strength to walk away, I dont have the strength to stay either. Commitment is a big responsibility for people with connection, especially when it felt like a burden for others. Relationship needs time, needs love, needs sacrifice.
So What if they dont want to sacrifice anymore?
This is a major problem. If changes is needed in a relationship, then changes will it be. If more sacrifice are needed to be done, sacrifice will it be. If changes wasnt cherished, i guess thats one of sacrifice that have already been made. Appreciation...
If you walk away, will you change to the worst?
Maybe not, maybe those changes will be the memoir for the relationship that we had, the time that we spent ( or wasted if that is how they look at it), memories we had together, all the ups and downs.
So, to change or not to change?
If changes is what I need to sacrifice to get you back. I will.